That’s a question I have been asking myself lately. Not about the obvious things (Is it wrong to sign up for a race on crap training? Yes. Is it wrong to keep my coworker’s compression socks for all eternity? Yes.).
But about other, seemingly minor parenting issues.
Is it wrong that I’ve given up potty-training Viv? I don’t know. Maybe? She was doing really well with going pee in the potty. The other thing? Not happening. We did what we did with Jack — just ignored it and went with underpants for her and figured she’d come around. But months later, she hasn’t. And I’m sick of it.
So we went back to pull-ups (which I hate mostly because they are a gimmick and are way more expensive than diapers) and I just … gave up. I take her potty, and if she tells me she has to go, we go then, too. But that’s it. She poops her pants every single day. More than once. And has zero interest in the potty for it.
With Jack, we persevered and just powered through. But he still did things when he was ready. In general, I don’t believe in waiting until a kid is ready for everything before they do it — I mean, part of parenting is you making them do things they don’t want to do (clear their plates from the table, put their shoes away, stop playing and go to bed). Maybe this is pure second-child laziness.
But whatever. I give up. Pull-ups forever!
Then there’s Jack.
He had a milk allergy, which he outgrew around age 3. But those two years of soy milk pretty much ruined him for regular milk. He won’t drink it. I tried going back to soy, but he won’t drink that, either.
We aren’t big juice people (orange with breakfast, a juice box in the Burley on bike rides, purely as a bribe).
But lately I’ve been looking at him … and he’s just so small. Still barely 35 pounds, 10 days shy of his 5th birthday. He eats pretty well, and we’ve become stricter on vegetables, which he hates. Currently I cover them in salt and he chokes them down.
Baby steps, right? (Meanwhile, his sister will eat every single vegetable on the table, including taking them off your plate if you are not looking.)
But now I’ve begun giving him chocolate milk at either lunch or dinner. I just want to cram more calories in him. He will drink smoothies I make in the morning, and he loves yogurt and cheese. But I don’t know … I want more calories. I make the chocolate milk with syrup, so it isn’t maybe quite as godawful (and by that I mean awesome) as the kind you buy pre-made. I keep meaning to look to see if it’s even that much different, sugar-wise, than flavored yogurt.
But still I wonder if basically I suck for serving that to my kid.
I don’t know. Pre-kids, I would have seen a kid drinking chocolate milk and made some kind of judgment in my head about what crap parents those were. I was such an idiot.
Sometimes with parenting, right and wrong aren’t black and white at all. Most times.
But here we are. With our pull-ups, and salty veggies and chocolate milk. Everyone’s smiling, so that’s good, right?